​Am I over reacting?

On my wedding day, I made sure to involve my brother in laws GF at the time. I was there at his sister’s wedding a few years prior, and was not part of it, so I knew I wanted my brother in laws GF to feel included and loved.

So I invited her to everything. I remember during my wedding day thinking how I cannot wait for them to get married and finally have our whole family, because he would be the last sibling that wasn’t married yet at the time.

Times goes on, we are married for 6 months and I have a history of mental health issues. I am a sexual assault survivor and I was having suicidal ideations and ended in hospital over Christmas. After Christmas the in laws didn’t reach out, and on of their family friends messaged me to hangout. She is 60 years old and also a sexual assault survivor. Essentially, I was going to see her, as I saw her as a mentor. I shared everything with her, and she shared everything with me. This included drama within the family (my in laws) as she was a close friend, and they were actually in a fight at that time. They were not on speaking terms due to an episode from this family friend who reached out to me. Apparently this friend has had a history of mental health episodes which were not true/misleading/out of proportion/just normal challenges living with PTSD. I understand completely, because I have also suffered with this. But help is possible.

Time passes, I keep talking with this friend because she’s helping me at this point. We are both childhood sexual assault survivors and she made her home a safe place for me. One day, I found out that she told my mother In law EVERYTHING I had told her about my drama. I was vulnerable and in a safe space and she went ahead and told my mother in law everything. They were obviously able to solve their personal problems at this point because now they are bonding from me sharing my vulnerabilities.

I had to separate myself and said I can’t talk about this in person and I apologized many times over text. I eventually agreed to a phone call when I was ready and safe to do so and I did that and apologized as well.

My brother in law got engaged and planning the wedding now. I was SO FUCKING EXCITED. I messaged them as soon as I found out. After this whole thing came out within the family, All of my in laws turned against me. I was kicked out. I was not invited to the engagement party, the bachelor and bachelorette party (my husband was the best man and there were partners there from other friends couples lol) I was told that I had to apologize to my mother in law in person in order to move on from everything. I Literally bawled my eyes crying to my brother in law many times because of how this affected me and my marriage. They were physically removing me from the family I got married into literally one year ago. My brother in law called me on the day of the party from the other country (oh yes, it was a destination conjoined bachelor/bachelorette party) and he said that if I can pay for a plane ticket I can come for the day. WOW. Thank you for that. He is also rich as fuck, his wife’s family are very wealthy and paid for his whole wedding and he literally stated ‘I would pay for a ticket but I can’t cause then I would have to have done that for everyone’

Anyway, time passes. Lots of sobbing from both my husband and I, eventually I agreed to apologize in person to my mother in law because they were TEARING my marriage apart.

I apologized. I was then invited to the wedding .. yes it was actually in question if I should’ve been invited or not. The wife stated I needed to speak with her in person before she invites me lol I did not do that because that was insane to me. I actually didn’t care if they invited me or not at that point.

So wedding day comes, I’m actually invited. Not to getting ready, even though there was the family

Friend’s husband who ruined my life there in many wedding pictures because he ran into them by accident. How fucking funny is life?

OHHH and I was invited to last minute nails on the night because her wedding who know the fuck why.

Time passes, wedding over. Life back to normal (obviously) my husband and i had the worst year of marriage, but we grew STRONG AS FUCK.

It’s been a year, how they are acting like nothing happened. Actually the whole family is. And it’s actually bothering me so much.. how can you remove me, shame and ruin my life for a whole YEAR, make me apologize in person and then now act like we are friends? Like I’m not gonna be on to ask for an apology, but I’m not going to be friendly unless they can show respect and recognize the hurt that was done. I’m not going to be begging for an apology, knowing how ‘hurt’ they were from me telling the truth, they should understand the hurt they have done back.

Thanks for reading this far, sorry for the story book.

They are Inviting us to the Super Bowl now and she’s just speaking normally like noooooo we are not okay???….